A Relatable Post on What to Do In Times of Grief

Finding yourself lost after the passing of a loved one is a common thing but such a difficult one to cope with. The overwhelming feelings of pain, anger, fear, sadness, and frustration don’t seem to help you see the light at the end of the tunnel. But it is ok to feel that way and it is ok to ask for help when you don’t know what to do.

The following is a post from an internet forum user and the reply from the community which we think that could help you out.

I lost my mum 4 months ago to cancer.

She was the only parent I had and I am an only child. I have the habit of going into autopilot during stressful times and im terrible at expressing my emotions, as you can probably tell by the way I’ve written this post.

So straight after she died, I threw myself into clearing her house, organizing the funeral etc. Two weeks after her passing I was back in university and work. I decided to drop out of uni, temporarily, to concentrate on coming to terms with everything. But now I’m left with all of this spare time. I just think and think and think.

I don’t know what to do with myself. This time is meant to be so that I can focus on myself, my grieving and my feelings but I have no idea where to start. I feel like I am stuck in a rut with all these emotions and I don’t know what to do.

Does anyone have any advice on things I can do/stuff I can read? just anything to help me would be so greatly appreciated.


For me, the biggest piece of my healing when my baby died was to connect with others who had experienced the loss of a child. I attended a retreat for grieving mothers, and it was absolutely integral in my grief journey.

While retreats can be difficult to find, I definitely encourage finding a local support group.  It helps to hear the struggles and paths of others who are also grieving. Sending you so much love! Remember to be gentle on yourself and allow yourself to feel it all.

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