7 Powerful Thoughts to Help You Cope With Loss

“I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to ‘not matter’. I don’t want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it.”

“It’s painful but what I’m doing is letting myself feel whatever it is that pops up. If I get angry at him for dying, I go away somewhere alone, pretend he’s there and yell at him. When I get sad, I let myself cry. Grieving is a process. There’s no right or wrong way. It takes time and its painful.”

“I listen to stories of him from his friends to help keep his memory alive. I write down things I want to remember. I tell people about him. I have opened myself up to every emotion that comes my way. I feel it, process it and then make myself move on to something else.”

“There’s no special method that worked for me. I went back to school the next day and the adults around me made sure I stuck to me schedule and I was obviously very sad, but after a while I realised that I was still living my life and could.”

“It’s important to understand that it’s okay to stop being sad.”

“I usually thank them for being there. Wish them well on their journey. As well discuss the fun parts of their life with the family, and friends. I’m not the best person to take to funerals… I don’t see the reason to mourn the loss of an individual but to celebrate their existence and who they were.”

“My maternal grandfather passed away unexpectedly a couple of years ago, and that has been the most difficult coping process for me. He didn’t tell anyone he was sick, but he knew he was going to die. It’s very difficult to be angry with someone that you love and miss so terribly, and to blame them for breaking your heart. That’s how it felt for the first few months, and I could not find peace with it. Even though there are times that I still cry my heart out because he’s gone, I can accept the fact and know that he is still thinking of me.”